One of the most important things that happened in my life was coming out.

Not only did it save my sanity but I felt it also saved me spiritually. After accepting my sexuality for my self, and exploring it in every possible way I could find, (OMG the 80's were fun) I realized that there was still an emptiness to fill.

It wasn't until I met Joe that it became clear what was yet to be fulfilled.

"Coming out" is a very powerful step in anyone's life but one that is not taken alone. There is a whole bunch of repercussions. And I am not referring to the obvious ones, but more communal ones.

Once I had found I could openly have a wonderful relationship with a man in an ignorant society, I felt the need to try to ease the journey for others. I felt that through our exposure, others who may not realize it's possible for them may never take the steps to get themselves there.

It is with that purpose that we created this website.

This is our lives, out there without filters or excuses. For everyone to see and realize that happiness is achievable and there are no set rules to relationships except for the ones that make that particular relationship work.

I love my partner Joe in a way that words can never express. He means the world to me and I want to be a better person because of him. We pay our taxes, we work hard and contribute to all aspects of our community. I personally served in the military along with many fellow gay military men who were proud to serve their country and had to hide their desires in fear of being, ridiculed, expelled or worse.

So to all those preachers, politicians and beauty queens who feel the need to lash out against those of us who have mustered the courage to be happy and devote ourselves to that other person who bring such meaning to our lives in an environment that still condemn us to a degreee, I say, please find that part of yourself that you hate and you think is me and confront it for what it is.

You cannot possibly have a reason to hate me, I am no threat to you, your family, your children or your way of life. But I may be a threat to that part of you that without reason, simply hates that part of yourself that might also make you happy.

Al